A staff of an oil company, according to the Sun newspaper of July 23, 2016, was reputed to have installed a CCTV in his residential house, because of thieves and he went back to the rig, forgetting to tell his wife. Going through the caught scenes during his next off-days, he noticed that his ‘trap’ had caught something. It was what he never expected nor imagined, his wife committing adultery! The story might be real or imagined, but what should he do?

Well, if uncle had caught his wife telling lies, it is likely that it would not raise the same emotion as that of adultery. The reason is that we rationalize sin, but the bad news is that God does not. As painful as adultery is, it carries before God, the same weight like any other sin, such as telling lies. ‘And there shall in no wise enter into it [Heaven] anything that defileth, neither whatsoever worketh abomination, or maketh a lie; but they which are written in the Lamb’s Book of life’ – Rev. 21:27. This is God’s verdict and no court can reverse it.

To some people, telling lies is normal. A man is in the bus with you in Lagos, and he is telephoning someone that his airplane has just landed at Abuja! My God! I met a lady in a bus recently, singing Muslim and Christian songs. ‘You are a student?’ I asked her. ‘Yes,’ she replied. ‘Which university?’ I asked. ‘Covenant,’ she replied. ‘What discipline?’ I asked. ‘Science,’ she replied. ‘There is no discipline called Science. What course?’ I asked.

‘Medicine,’ she said. ‘Have you done your 2nd MB?’ I asked. ‘I am doing IT,’ she said. ‘IT in Medical School?’ I wondered. I heard how a man discovered after his wedding that everything he had been seeing on his wife’s body was artificial. Chai! A man lost a case in the court, because he lied to his lawyer. Ask a toddler to give you the things he is holding and he will put them in one hand, throwing that hand behind him, and showing you the empty palm. We laugh when he does that, forgetting that his action is nothing but telling lies. And that is how and where it starts.

Telling lies precedes adultery. It is not possible to be adulterous without graduating from the ‘Faculty of Lies’. Lying is the weapon he uses to cover his tracks. I wrote a few years ago, how a man claimed before the college authorities that the girl he came to visit was his younger sister. Unknown to him, the mother of the girl was there, waiting to see the girl. Confronting the man, she said: “So you are my son and I don’t know you?” In my newest book, I wrote how a man told his wife that he would be returning home late on Fridays because of extra responsibility given to him by his boss. His wife did not mind that, but at the end of the month, she could not see any extra cash, in recompense. in his pay cheque. To make the extra cash she needed, she went to a distant brothel one Friday evening, knowing that uncle would be returning late. She told her children that she was going for a meeting. The rule there was that after registration, the person would go to the dressing room to remove his or her dress and would then change to the ‘business’ outfit provided by the brothel. After that, the person would go to the waiting room, where partners were paired. That was where uncle and aunty met! Each knew what brought the other there! It all started with lies, which snowballed to high level of $exual imm0rality.

Well, it is difficult to imagine how a wife will stoop to that beastly level by sleeping with a man, who is not her spouse. Cash, revenge and carelessness have been identified as some of the causes of infidelity. I have spoken in many seminars and Couples’ Dinner on the danger, and that $ex outside wedlock is not the same as with a spouse. The joy and comfort derived in driving one’s car is lost when a thief drives the same car. God is generous and has made it possible for us to have many single men and ladies, that anyone who cares, can get a spouse. To refuse to marry or to be married and then, you leave your spouse and pitch your tent on another man’s wife, is wickedness. The same thing applies to women, who seduce other women’s husbands or allow themselves to be seduced, for whatever reason. God’s message for the wicked is that it will not be well with them.

What will Jesus do if He were the man, whose CCTV caught his wife P@nts-in-hand? Kill her as uncle is afraid he might do, if he continued to see her or divorce her as by implication, he is being advised? Jesus will forgive her. What did Uncle Joseph, the carpenter do, when he discovered that Mary, his espoused bride, was pregnant, when as God’s children, they had no premarital $ex? Knowing that the penalty was death by stoning, he wanted to save her from that, by putting her away secretly. That was a measure of his love for God and for her. God then told him that the pregnancy was by the Holy Spirit. My counsel therefore, is for the man to forgive his wife. Apostle Paul enjoins us to have the mind of Christ, which comes through the new birth. Holding high positions in the Church is good, but it will not give you the mind of Christ. Paul told the Church in Ephesus that good works per se, cannot save anybody. It is by grace through faith, however, we are saved to do good works.

It is difficult for a man, who does not have the mind of Christ to forgive anybody, including his adulterous wife. It is painful to imagine how a fellow man will uncover your wife’s Nakkedness and then sleep with her, and worse still, in your house. What is amazing is that as ugly as this evil is, some of the men, who will hit the rooftop in anger when their wives commit adultery, are the same people that do the same B.razenly. Without fearing God, nor caring for the feelings of their fellow men, they sleep with their wives, including the wives of their bosom friends. They do the same also with the daughters of their fellow men, sinning against their friends and the future husbands of such ladies. To them, infidelity is abominable when a wife indulges in it, but male chauvinism or weakness of the flesh, when the husband is the offender.